Better Late than Never

 🧳 Hello, Fellow Unpackers! 🧳

I’m a couple of days late, but as they say, "better late than never!" Firstly, welcome back, and I’m so grateful to have you all on this journey with me. Before I get into what I have been up to, I just wanted to let you all know that I am here for you and would love to get to know you all and hear how you are doing on your own adventure unpacking the real you.

So hit the follow button and send me an email; you are not alone. Always remember that. xx

My journey this week has been crazy, with me finalizing my university placement, studying, and traveling through everyday ordeals. I return to work this week, thankfully, so income can resume. That’s one relief, I assure you.

All the above said and done is only a speck in the reality of life’s big picture. I have been emotionally supporting some dear people in my life who are going through what I would say is one of the hardest struggles anyone can experience. One is about to leave this world on another journey and the other is losing the love of their life.

“Traumatic” is the best word I feel to explain the situation. I know firsthand how emotional a journey this is, as I too have nursed my own husband and the father of my children as he left this world.

Tears have been constant, and it’s been impossible not to show my emotions. The personal struggle of my dear friends is a fresh reminder of the past and a time of reflection. Nothing prepares us when we lose or are in the process of losing someone we love. Nothing explains the feelings or emotions that arise.

When looking after our loved ones, it’s difficult to respect their wishes at times when you just want to help them. As they are declining, our very hearts and souls are being ripped from our being, and we are torn apart by not wanting them to leave while praying for their pain and suffering to end.

At this moment, I just want to ask you all to remember to have self-compassion and kindness toward yourself. Remember, it’s okay not to be okay. It’s okay to need help and support. We never know what life will give us or what our ends will involve.

So, as we continue on our present path, I’d like to ask that we appreciate everything and anything we get the opportunity to experience. Good or bad, let’s find the lessons in these experiences.

If your trauma or past experiences still bring you immense grief or sadness I urge you to reach out and get support. Birth and death are expected parts of life, what we do in between is up to us.

Turning 50 has really made me consider that I need to make the most of every single moment, feel it, process it and allow myself to heal when needed. To find the greatest parts still to enjoy. Find the happiness and discard the negativity and draining non constructive parts.

This post is dedicated to the person who was like a second Dad to me. In respect of him I will not mention his name but I will miss you very much. Those close to me will know who I am referring to. I am beyond broken that I did not get to see you in time but am grateful we got to say our goodbyes on the phone. I love you. And I will finish my degree I promise you. I will make you proud. I will be their always for your wife I promise that too, an amazing woman I’m so grateful to have as a friend and second Mum.

I know this is quite a sad post but it’s also a celebration to an amazing person who didn’t give up the fight. And a lesson to us all to give our everything on our own life journey.

Sending love and strength to everyone ❤️

Tee 🩷 xox